Bullying


Bullying can take on many different forms; verbal, physical, and or threats of harassment. It can include shouting or swearing, being ignored and language and/or actions used to embarrass someone. It can sound like someone referring to something or someone as “so gay” when meaning that something is stupid, unwanted or unwelcomed.

It is important to know and remember that bullying is not about who YOU are, it is about who a bully is. The way a person identifies, dresses, and who they love are not valid reasons or the root cause of why someone bullied. People who bully specifically target those they think to be “different” for any reason. People may use bullying because they lack the skills to communicate what they are thinking/ feeling.

The bottom line is…

You deserve to be able to be yourself, without having to face verbal or physical violence … and to be able to live peacefully without having to lie about being LGBT or about being an ally, who has gay friends or family members or about believing in equal civil rights for gay people.

And no matter how alone you may sometimes feel, YOU deserve support!

So what can you do?

If you are being bullied:

  • Remember, this is not about who you are.

  • Do not escalate the situation by calling the bully names or getting into a physical altercation with them, protect yourself but know that violence doesn’t solve anything.

  • Remove yourself from the situation and go to a safe place. (Not fighting back is not the same as giving up).

  • Report incidents of bullying to teachers, counsellors, parents or a trusted family member.

  • Talk to someone you trust – find a support network.

If you are a bystander while bullying is occurring:

  • Get help.

  • Do not escalate the situation by calling the bully names or getting into a physical altercation with them, protect yourself but know that violence doesn’t solve anything.

  • Speak up in the moment.

  • Intervene if you can do so safely.

  • Offer to be a support, be someone people can confide in.

If you are a bully:

  • Stop and Think! — What is really making you so mad?

  • Hold yourself accountable – you make your own choices.

  • Find someone that is trained and that you trust to talk to.

  • Seek support to learn skills that focus on problem solving and healthy communication.

  • Just walk away!

At Schools and at Work:

  • Create anti-bullying and harassment policies that specifically name and protect LGBT Traveller identities.

  • Identify and enforce consequences for bullying and harassment.

  • Provide trainings for all staff!

  • Teach proper protocol for when someone reports bullying and/ or bullying is witnessed.

  • Speak up in the moment.

  • Intervene if you can do so safely.

  • Create safe and supportive environments.

Parents/Family:

  • Model understanding, non-judgemental, and caring behaviours.

  • Have conversations with your children, siblings and other community members regarding discrimination, harassment, and bullying.

  • Create safe and supportive environments.

  • Speak up in the moment.

  • Intervene if you can do so safely.

  • Report incidents of bullying that you witness.

Let’s make a difference together!

































*Guide made availlible from Tom Smith.